Sense Sonnet - Pumper

Spider Bride?

A wolf spider who is female,
Ever looking for the right mate,
But it is oft an iffy trail,
Endeavoring to copulate.
Sometimes the focus I do lack
Of passing on my DNA.
I make the male into a snack,
And get stuffed with food as foreplay.
Now after sex, the guys seem to
Expect us girls to them partake.
So if I focus then I do
Know which first move that I should make.

If Mr. Right, first mate then ate.
If Mr. Wrong, just ate, skip mate.